Dating App Messaging

Many 'texting principles' you learn from this website will translate perfectly to dating apps - although there are a few exceptions to add.  

This page will help you understand some key advanced communication concepts that will make dating online WAY more enjoyable for you and for women you message 

*This entire dating apps strategy system is broken down in more detail in the VIP membership*

The Goal : 
Give Women a Fresh Experience

One of the advantages of Online Dating is by creating the right profile bio, you can start out controlling the frame 

“Okay so I googled MBPT…”

That showed she started out by investing into MY FRAME to try to figure out what the challenge in my profile bio meant.

You may think of it as 'selfish' to get women to buy into your frame as a man...

However - that is a FRESH experience for her.  When she starts out playing your game, it's new and exciting for her.

Why?  Because she doesn't know the 'rules' of how to win your game YET.  And part of the attraction process for women is her having to work to figure out HOW to get you.  

Message with Intention :
The Men that are Best with Women are Strategic

Praising what you like creates the roadmap for success.

This idea of ‘controlling the frame’ is far more powerful than just to get a girls phone number or to get a date with her.

It sets the entire PACE for your interaction by ‘pre-paving’ your expectations.

Why do women send me long messages and put a lot of 'effort' in?

Because I am 'secretly' praising things like her effort and things I want to see more of in the future from her.

This is an advanced psychological concept, but when you want to have great results you have to message with intention.  

Become the 'Tester' :
Moat Women 'Test' Men, Flip the Script

Too many men get scared of passing HER tests…

The better you get with these conversation skills the sooner YOU can start testing her - like I am doing here.

Will she play along and do the work? 

If she does, she is playing into my frame.

If she doesn’t, that weeds out the lukewarm or uninterested women.

That is a mindset of 'abundance' rather than desperation

Let Women Talk MORE :
While You Still Keep Control of the Frame

The best communicators on this Earth are able to master the skill of letting other people talk - while simultaneously being in complete control of the frame or conversation. 

For example -

I have directed this conversation to personality types

(which I know more about than she does)

Now I am letting her talk and reveal her thoughts while maintaining the ‘expert’ or ‘leader’ frame in a sense

Engage a Woman's Emotions :
To Keep Her Excited to Actually Meet Up with You

To women, it is all about EMOTIONS...

The dickhead and jerk are great at playing with a woman’s EMOTIONS. 

You can do the same thing without becoming a douchebag of a person.

Use anticipation… 

Curiosity… 

Intrigue…

Even if it seems silly or simple, it WORKS

Notice the Time :
You Must Be Patient to Be Pursued

Notice she is replying 16 minutes after me and I replied almost 5 and a half hours later...

When I get women to meet up with me with very little conversation or effort -

It’s because everything I am NOT SAYING is making her more comfortable with meeting up.

The guys that text back too quickly give off the vibe that they will be 'clingy' or 'needy' or a 'stalker' IF a woman were to meet up with them.

Women Like Being 'Detectives' -
She Wants to Slowly Piece You Together Herself

As men we naturally communicate in a more direct and straightforward way.  Our brains work more like clean filing cabinets with separate compartments sorting out our thoughts and ideas. 

Women naturally communicate in a more intuitive and indirect way.  Her brain works more like a tangled ball of yarn - where EVERY idea, thought, and feeling is connected in some way, shape, or form.

So think about WHY this is fun for her

How many other men are making each message a ‘breadcrumb’ that she needs to figure out?    

Very few.  That engages her tangled yarn brain.  

Most Methods That Work are Counterintuitive -
The LESS You Do, The MORE She Does

We are having almost NO conversation 

And I am expending almost NO effort

But when you change your entire frame of mind and understand the simple fundamentals of what makes women get excited...

Dating can become much more stress-free and much less time consuming.

A man on his purpose should not spend hours a day on dating apps trying to message women.

That is why all the methods I teach should feel natural for a man on a mission in life.  Just a handful of the RIGHT messages a week can lead to a LOT of attraction with women on dating apps.   

When You Take Your Time -
She Comes to You and Starts to Pursue

When you get comfortable controlling and leading the frame

(while letting her invest more by talking more and waiting on your replies)

You notice how much easier everything else becomes, because now a woman follows your lead in your text conversation

- And naturally that same principle translates over to in-person.  She will follow your lead as long as you continue to create a frame for her to follow.

But most men are either too scared or have NO IDEA how to do this.

(cough cough that's why I created the VIP membership to teach men how to learn these crucial skills)

When Women Pursue Men -
They Have Their Emotions Really Engaged

Look how much easier it is when she is following your frame instead of you trying to ‘chase her’ or ‘win her over’ 

As men we are told it's our job to 'pursue' a woman right?

The mindset that actually WORKS  with women is completely backwards from what we have been taught

The problem is, a woman SHOULD chase and pursue you or else her emotions will not be nearly as engaged as they COULD be.

Again -  this is why women usually go for the 'bad boys' because they are giving women these emotional connections and engagements that most average guys just don't understand or know how to do.

Learn the RIGHT Time to Pounce -
And Go from Dating App to Phone #

Because she put more effort in by reaching out AGAIN…
I am rewarding her effort in a sense. 
She has 'earned' my phone number. 

Now her investment in our conversation makes sense to her, it wasn't just a waste of time. 

“I’m slow at replying here”

And although I was slow at replying to her on this dating app, now if she texts me MAYBE I’ll reply faster. 

This makes her even more eager to text me.  

She Texts You First? 
That is the Best 'Frame' to Start Texting In

When THIS is the start of your conversation with a woman, do you think she will be very likely to ‘bail’ or ‘flake’ when you finally do ask her to hangout? 

NOPE 

And especially when you set something up like the 10 Dollar Bill Date, there is NO WAY she will flake.

(don't worry... of course I teach you how to set this entire date up, from start to finish, all inside the VIP membership)

When you can keep this up, it actually becomes easier and easier with that woman rather than harder and harder like it becomes for most men around most women in todays digital dating world.