Why Standing Your Ground Is Attractive To Women

One of the hardest parts for me as a man to understand was setting boundaries with women.  

If you are like me, you adore women.  So when it comes to standing up to a woman, and creating 'friction' in a relationship, it does not seem like the right move to do with a girl you are interested in.  

I am going to show you why you MUST have boundaries when dating because it shows your confidence as a man, which we know is extremely attractive to a woman.

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At a quick glance this really doesn't look good for me.  This is exactly the point in the conversation where I could either back down and apologize - or stand strong and see what happens.

This first text there is a lot going on.  First off - sending a text like 'hi hi hi' at 1 a.m. is never a good idea.  The only reason I can get away with that is because her and I have hungout a lot in the past, and more importantly, because I know that I can get myself through any type of texting/dating situation with all the experience I have.  So in the words of a hypocrite, do as I say, not as I do (especially don't do this with a woman you barely know).  

The really important part of this first part is that she said that she has "moved on and is not into anything but being friends".  Guys - if there is a woman you are interested in as more than friends, never accept these terms if she tries to put you in the 'friend zone'.  You'll see why in a moment.

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Look at how quickly this turned around... the important thing is that I texted her at 1:02 am and I did not reply or react to her texts again until 1:29 am.  This is important and leads me to a great dating tip.

Texting Tip:  Taking your time to respond is always a good idea, but there's another bonus.  When a woman is upset or a potential argument is happening (like in the texts above), giving her some time will help cool down the situation so that you can turn the conversation back to being playful and lighthearted.

So because she had the time to cool down, you see that she then texted me again saying "K I miss you but no".  That is the big clue I needed to continue this conversation.  

Now it was important for me to now set my boundaries - I did NOT want to hangout with her if she was going to try to make me feel bad about anything in the past, or she was going to be upset and grouchy.  So my text saying, "If we hangout I want it to be fun/not arguing" was huge.  That told her that YES I do want to see you, but I want it to be a night we both enjoy, not drama and fighting.  

Right before that she started to call me.  She continued to call me after that.  

Remember: It is never about being a jerk to women.  
It is never about being bossy and controlling.  

It is being about having your standards and principles you live by, and if she is not okay with that, then you can both move on.  

You must be willing to let women go when you are not okay with the outcome.  

Otherwise you will be setting the relationship up on her terms, and she will hate that in the long run as well because she wants a man she can trust that is a leader in the relationship.  

P.S.  This woman and I had a past.  The reason she was willing to hangout with me is because she knows at anytime, I may decide I would rather stay home and read or learn something new than to hangout with someone.  She also knows that I don't like to waste my time putting up with drama, so these factors all helped to make her feel like she needed to come over tonight.  

As always - keep improving my fellow men.

-Adam Jordan
Founder of TextingPrince